Why do Getps take it slowly when talking about their finances

In this section of Long view, Rating SETTHI, MONEY MONEY, CONTROL, disciplines partners can talk about the topic, why struggle with his recent article, Money for a couple: no more stress. No more wrestling. Just 10 steps just to create your rich life together.

Here are a few points from a semei and christone benz.

Christine Benz: I want to get better habits for a couple around money and communication. In your book, you really walk with people in a way to do this better. Another thing I did is you want to take it slowly. He also wants to bring about such a part, you don’t want to be too hard about it, and you don’t want to start from the end of the conflict or accusations. Talk about couples should remember when they want to talk about their money, but they want to keep cool heads when cool heads as they do.

Ratmit Sethi: Money should be fun. The income issue does not end up another. The point of money will not keep it. The point of money is to use it to live a wealthy life. What I say about a book and in a book, recommends our relationship with money. And then I get special in accordance with real words you can use. I will give you an instance of something that a listener can now use. I call it “Your good communication of good money.” And I renamed the name because most of us have no good conversation. We wrestling only with it: “I don’t believe you have finished being given such aim.” And now we go to bed, sleep in various bed, wake up, pretending to never happen, and wait for the fight for six weeks later. What a terrible way to live in money. Thus, your best money dialog has four parts and is very quick. “See, you know it? I realized that when we talked about money, it is not thinking about it.” It feels that we are in our past, and I want to change that in the past, and I want to change that in the past, “

That is part. You start, tell them if you want to make a change and maybe shared younger debt. Part 2: How do I feel. “Now, when I think about money, I feel scared, stressed. I feel back. You?” Here, you open a lot of emotional money and make your partner concerned. It is not a schedule, in the reward.

Third: How do I want to feel. “I want to feel courageous. I want to feel calm. I want to feel connected. You?” Painting a picture. And finally, “when should we talk about the next cash? What about next week?” It’s over lucky. Provide a request for old, sweet, and call it a day. We should not talk about $ 32 to pay for $ 32 on Amazon right now. We have a whole life. What we do is to do is to connect to the emotion. We both participate, put some materials when we talk next time, and we are going to pull a lot. That is exactly what these investigations are about.

Couples can’t talk

Benz: While listening to each other for ten-year-old couple, but you too have a couple who do not produce money, but they don’t produce their future together. Do you find that it works better than money, some of this weakness?

Setting: Always, always. One of the great honor I have is to have couples to come a week my weekly podcast. We spend many hours and hours together, and share everything. They share real numbers. They share things they can’t tell their best friends. And it’s because they trust me. I am there to help them, not judge them. You will find horrible things. For example, I mentioned many men, and after talking to them in their relationship, two hours, I said, “I have noticed that you haven’t asked my wife.” And you’ll be more about my opinion. I go, “Have you ever asked her questions? Now think about it.” You will go, “no.” Isn’t that? Isn’t it tille? That this is not one person or one person. This happens frequently. In a relationship, this is an example of certain behavior they were present. There are many other varieties of the patterns I see. He will not ask him a question about anything. So, what I found with couples, in the same way as you have to do with money as they driving fog, they can see 30 feet to come. We focus on this month. We find most information and our opinion with our finances from what is available in our checking account.

We are surprised by what our holiday gift is losing us, even if it happens every year. Why is this there? Why are we doing that? Why are we surprised? We are useless? Are we dumb? No. We have a moon living moon. They are weak and preached six months in the past, not more than 30 years old. This is what the financial industry does not understand. They always use a language that does not use the only language that does not match how people work. What is your financial goals? Not the way people think about in things. So if you ask that question, they will give you some “reply:” I think we would like to retire at a certain time. “No, you ask the wrong question. You already have a negative answer because of your dear that you don’t like you are not preaching the root of root in 2060?” Why do you preach The root canals, and I am definitely willing to plan 30 years from now. It is because you have to keep in mind. You are not to have a good idea.